It was at a sex convention that I first fell in love with adult products all those years ago, but while so much has changed in this industry since then, it seems conventions, sadly, have not. Walking into a sex con, such as Sexpo, today, looks much like it did seven years ago, and if anything things have gone backwards. With the vast majority of products being non-body-safe, barely any representation from quality brands or retailers, and questionable guest stars, I find myself struggling more and more each year to attend. But the thing that keeps me going is the thought of finding a diamond in the rough, and by that I mean the opportunity to scout out new local businesses that I might not have found out about otherwise, and then share them with you all. In previous years this has led me to finds such as the MiaMaxx Hand-Held Thruster and Cloudnine Hummingbird, and it’s even where I first met Geeky Sex Toys, who I now work for. But it was at the most recent convention that I first came into contact with a small business who I believe represents everything this industry needs right now, and that business was Deeper Blue Ceramics.

The Brand

Deeper Blue Ceramics is a small Australian-based business that has been creating handmade ceramic sex toys for around a year now. It’s the sort of beautiful ceramic work that I am use to seeing at indie markets in the form of plant pots or dinnerware, except this time that finesse and skill has instead been applied to creating dildos. When I first saw their stand at Sexpo last year I was immediately intrigued by the beauty of it all, but what was more impressive was just how passionate they clearly were about their work once we started talking. One of the main things that stood out to me though, other than their focus on aesthetically beautiful and unique body-safe products, was just how environmentally conscious they were, and I remember the two of us sharing complaints about the immense level of waste associated with sex toys. As such, they work with a zero-waste mindset, and achieve this by doing things such as recycling and reusing all excess clay, water and tools, and using sustainably sourced packaging that is compostable (and in most cases made from recycled paper and cardboard), just to name a few. This sustainable approach, combined with toys that should last you a lifetime, really reflects the way I think the sex toy industry needs to head in the future, and so I couldn’t have been more excited when they offered to send me one of their products for review.

Product Description

With a specialisation in mostly non-phallic dildos (and a few dinner sets), currently the range at Deeper Blue Ceramics is quite small and your choice of products will mostly depend on your colour and size preferences, however if you do really want something different then they are open to custom designs. For this review I was sent a Lilac Matte, which is just one of their many unique pieces. Tones of light blue cover this piece, with slight variations here and there which highlight its hand-made quality, whilst the smooth matte coating is pleasant to the touch. With a length of about 13cm / 5″ (about 11cm / 4.3″ insertable) and a diameter of 3.5cm / 1.4″, this toy definitely on the small side, however that seems appropriate for its firm density. While my Lilac Matte isn’t a perfect replica of its product listing, with a flatter head and less tapered shaft than it appears on the website, that is to be expected of a hand-made toy and it is exciting to consider that there isn’t another Lilac Matte out there quite like mine. Then, while it’s hard to tell from just my photos, the toy’s shaft isn’t completely smooth, as there are small bumps and ridges along the way, which add an element of texture to the product. At the very end of the toy is then another ridge, however this one is quite large and obvious, and this acts to create a small handle-like area where you can place your fingers during use. Lastly, whilst all of the insertable portions of the toy feature the body-safe coating and colour, the bottom of the base has been left bare and thus is quite rough. The only element that you will find on the base is the company logo, which has been etched into the clay, and I think is a really nice personal touch that further emphasises the hand-made nature of the item.

Packaging

My order for the Deeper Blue Ceramics Lilac Matte was placed around the 27th of January and I promptly received it by the 4th of February. There was no mention of what the contents were, however the label did list the sender as Deeper Blue Ceramics. Thankfully though unless your mailman or nosy housemate bothers to look up what that is, they’re pretty unlikely to assume it is a sex toy.  As you’d imagine, the packaging for the Lilac Matte was then very simple, with the product arriving in a small box made out of recycled card, and the only brand indication being a small sticker with the Deeper Blue Ceramics logo on it. Inside the box the toy was then beautifully wrapped in some branded tissue paper, whilst the whole thing was well protected through the use of packaging materials. Then, in addition to the toy itself, a small card was also included which lists care instructions for the product. Overall I am very happy with this packaging as it is minimal and involves nothing unnecessary, and every element is either reusable or recyclable. Plus, the box also doubles as a great place to keep your toy in-between uses, due to the included padding and how visually discreet it is.

My Experience

Despite the Lilac’s small size I was unsure if I would be able to insert it without warming up first due to its firm material, but thankfully it turns out that it is able to go in quite easily after a good quality lubricant has been applied. Still, if I do want to make insertion even smoother then using a small silicone toy first, such as the Funkit Toys NoFrillDo or Godemiche Ambit, works perfectly. An important factor to keep in mind about this toy prior to insertion, however, is the fact that it is very sensitive to temperature, and as such it will start off quite cold. This makes it perfect for temperature play though, and it’s very easy to warm up under a tap or in a bowl of water prior to use, which can be essential during winter. Whether I heat it up or not, inserting something that has its own temperature immediately adds an extra form of sensation to my play that I am not use to, and I love the feeling of it slowly warming to meet my body temperature during use. Then, after a couple of minutes of being inside of me it will become quite hot, and this in particular is a form of stimulation that I adore, as it adds a new level of pleasure to my use of the Lilac Matte. Unfortunately, due to its shape and size I am unable to stimulate any of my pleasure points with it, however I have found that it can rub the outside of my G-Spot, which is still quite pleasurable. My favourite way to use the Lilac Matte though has just been to thrust it in and out, and its firmness really helps to heighten this sensation, as it makes even the weakest of thrusts feel powerful and intense. Then, adding a clitoral vibrator to the mix, such as the Dame Kip or Hot Octopuss AMO, really allows me to have some absolutely excellent orgasms with this product. The only downside I would suggest regarding the Lilac Matte is that due to the length of it my fingers do get quite messy, but having the little ridge to protect them definitely helps with this, and I do think that if it was any longer then it may not be as comfortable to thrust with.

Cleaning & Care

Since the Deeper Blue Ceramics Lilac Matte is both waterproof and body-safe, cleaning it is easy. As it notes on the care details card, taking care of your ceramic toy is very similar to taking care of a coffee mug, as after use you can just lightly wash it by hand or in the dishwasher with a soap of your choice. You should also be careful when handling it to avoid damage, and make sure to check over the toy for any potential chips or cracks prior to use. After cleaning you can then display your beautiful toy somewhere, or for more discreet storage you can put it back in its original packaging (since the packaging is a little big for my tastes I’ve particularly taken to wrapping it in a furoshiki for protection, which is what it is displayed on in these photos).

Final Thoughts

I’ve spoken many times on the blog about the products that I am sent often feeling more like works of art than sex toys, but the Deeper Blue Ceramics Lilac Matte takes that to an entirely new level. I am a big fan of handmade ceramic pieces and regularly buy this sort of thing at local markets, so being able to now combine my love for this with sex toys just couldn’t be any more perfect. Not to mention how important sustainability and the zero-waste movement has become to me over the last year or so (which is surprisingly very difficult to abide by as a sex toy reviewer). With its subtle design this product could easily fit in amongst other home decor items, allowing it to remain discreet (clearly it is a scrunchie holder), but its simplicity is also what makes it one of my most aesthetically pleasing dildos yet. Plus, the best bit is that this toy isn’t just all looks, as it feels simply amazing in use too. The smooth yet firm texture, alongside its temperature play abilities, all work to prove that ceramic is an excellent medium for a sex toy, whilst the design allows for these elements to not become too overwhelming during use. Then, to top it all off is the fact that the Lilac Matte is actually quite cheap, since with a price tag of only $80 AUD this is a lot less than you’ll typically find for such a high quality hand-made toy. Overall this is an excellent product from a brand with a great ethos, and there has truly never been a better time to support small independent toy makers like this!

While the Lilac Matte is no longer a preset option, Deeper Blue Ceramics continue to offer a wide range of beautiful dildos and can also be contacted for custom designs. Plus, don’t forget to use my code GRACE to get 10% OFF your total order!

Last updated: 14/8/24

Price at the time of writing: $80 AUD / $52 USD

I received this product in exchange for an honest and unbiased review. Affiliate links have been used in this post.

It was at a sex convention that I first fell in love with adult products all those years ago, but while so much has changed in this industry since then, it seems conventions, sadly, have not. Walking into a sex con, such as Sexpo, today, looks much like it did seven years ago, and if anything things have gone backwards. With the vast majority of products being non-body-safe, barely any representation from quality brands or retailers, and questionable guest stars, I find myself struggling more and more each year to attend. But the thing that keeps me going is the thought of finding a diamond in the rough, and by that I mean the opportunity to scout out new local businesses that I might not have found out about otherwise, and then share them with you all. In previous years this has led me to finds such as the MiaMaxx Hand-Held Thruster and Cloudnine Hummingbird, and it’s even where I first met Geeky Sex Toys, who I now work for. But it was at the most recent convention that I first came into contact with a small business who I believe represents everything this industry needs right now, and that business was Deeper Blue Ceramics.

The Brand

Deeper Blue Ceramics is a small Australian-based business that has been creating handmade ceramic sex toys for around a year now. It’s the sort of beautiful ceramic work that I am use to seeing at indie markets in the form of plant pots or dinnerware, except this time that finesse and skill has instead been applied to creating dildos. When I first saw their stand at Sexpo last year I was immediately intrigued by the beauty of it all, but what was more impressive was just how passionate they clearly were about their work once we started talking. One of the main things that stood out to me though, other than their focus on aesthetically beautiful and unique body-safe products, was just how environmentally conscious they were, and I remember the two of us sharing complaints about the immense level of waste associated with sex toys. As such, they work with a zero-waste mindset, and achieve this by doing things such as recycling and reusing all excess clay, water and tools, and using sustainably sourced packaging that is compostable (and in most cases made from recycled paper and cardboard), just to name a few. This sustainable approach, combined with toys that should last you a lifetime, really reflects the way I think the sex toy industry needs to head in the future, and so I couldn’t have been more excited when they offered to send me one of their products for review.

Product Description

With a specialisation in mostly non-phallic dildos (and a few dinner sets), currently the range at Deeper Blue Ceramics is quite small and your choice of products will mostly depend on your colour and size preferences, however if you do really want something different then they are open to custom designs. For this review I was sent a Lilac Matte, which is just one of their many unique pieces. Tones of light blue cover this piece, with slight variations here and there which highlight its hand-made quality, whilst the smooth matte coating is pleasant to the touch. With a length of about 13cm / 5″ (about 11cm / 4.3″ insertable) and a diameter of 3.5cm / 1.4″, this toy definitely on the small side, however that seems appropriate for its firm density. While my Lilac Matte isn’t a perfect replica of its product listing, with a flatter head and less tapered shaft than it appears on the website, that is to be expected of a hand-made toy and it is exciting to consider that there isn’t another Lilac Matte out there quite like mine. Then, while it’s hard to tell from just my photos, the toy’s shaft isn’t completely smooth, as there are small bumps and ridges along the way, which add an element of texture to the product. At the very end of the toy is then another ridge, however this one is quite large and obvious, and this acts to create a small handle-like area where you can place your fingers during use. Lastly, whilst all of the insertable portions of the toy feature the body-safe coating and colour, the bottom of the base has been left bare and thus is quite rough. The only element that you will find on the base is the company logo, which has been etched into the clay, and I think is a really nice personal touch that further emphasises the hand-made nature of the item.

Packaging

My order for the Deeper Blue Ceramics Lilac Matte was placed around the 27th of January and I promptly received it by the 4th of February. There was no mention of what the contents were, however the label did list the sender as Deeper Blue Ceramics. Thankfully though unless your mailman or nosy housemate bothers to look up what that is, they’re pretty unlikely to assume it is a sex toy.  As you’d imagine, the packaging for the Lilac Matte was then very simple, with the product arriving in a small box made out of recycled card, and the only brand indication being a small sticker with the Deeper Blue Ceramics logo on it. Inside the box the toy was then beautifully wrapped in some branded tissue paper, whilst the whole thing was well protected through the use of packaging materials. Then, in addition to the toy itself, a small card was also included which lists care instructions for the product. Overall I am very happy with this packaging as it is minimal and involves nothing unnecessary, and every element is either reusable or recyclable. Plus, the box also doubles as a great place to keep your toy in-between uses, due to the included padding and how visually discreet it is.

My Experience

Despite the Lilac’s small size I was unsure if I would be able to insert it without warming up first due to its firm material, but thankfully it turns out that it is able to go in quite easily after a good quality lubricant has been applied. Still, if I do want to make insertion even smoother then using a small silicone toy first, such as the Funkit Toys NoFrillDo or Godemiche Ambit, works perfectly. An important factor to keep in mind about this toy prior to insertion, however, is the fact that it is very sensitive to temperature, and as such it will start off quite cold. This makes it perfect for temperature play though, and it’s very easy to warm up under a tap or in a bowl of water prior to use, which can be essential during winter. Whether I heat it up or not, inserting something that has its own temperature immediately adds an extra form of sensation to my play that I am not use to, and I love the feeling of it slowly warming to meet my body temperature during use. Then, after a couple of minutes of being inside of me it will become quite hot, and this in particular is a form of stimulation that I adore, as it adds a new level of pleasure to my use of the Lilac Matte. Unfortunately, due to its shape and size I am unable to stimulate any of my pleasure points with it, however I have found that it can rub the outside of my G-Spot, which is still quite pleasurable. My favourite way to use the Lilac Matte though has just been to thrust it in and out, and its firmness really helps to heighten this sensation, as it makes even the weakest of thrusts feel powerful and intense. Then, adding a clitoral vibrator to the mix, such as the Dame Kip or Hot Octopuss AMO, really allows me to have some absolutely excellent orgasms with this product. The only downside I would suggest regarding the Lilac Matte is that due to the length of it my fingers do get quite messy, but having the little ridge to protect them definitely helps with this, and I do think that if it was any longer then it may not be as comfortable to thrust with.

Cleaning & Care

Since the Deeper Blue Ceramics Lilac Matte is both waterproof and body-safe, cleaning it is easy. As it notes on the care details card, taking care of your ceramic toy is very similar to taking care of a coffee mug, as after use you can just lightly wash it by hand or in the dishwasher with a soap of your choice. You should also be careful when handling it to avoid damage, and make sure to check over the toy for any potential chips or cracks prior to use. After cleaning you can then display your beautiful toy somewhere, or for more discreet storage you can put it back in its original packaging (since the packaging is a little big for my tastes I’ve particularly taken to wrapping it in a furoshiki for protection, which is what it is displayed on in these photos).

Final Thoughts

I’ve spoken many times on the blog about the products that I am sent often feeling more like works of art than sex toys, but the Deeper Blue Ceramics Lilac Matte takes that to an entirely new level. I am a big fan of handmade ceramic pieces and regularly buy this sort of thing at local markets, so being able to now combine my love for this with sex toys just couldn’t be any more perfect. Not to mention how important sustainability and the zero-waste movement has become to me over the last year or so (which is surprisingly very difficult to abide by as a sex toy reviewer). With its subtle design this product could easily fit in amongst other home decor items, allowing it to remain discreet (clearly it is a scrunchie holder), but its simplicity is also what makes it one of my most aesthetically pleasing dildos yet. Plus, the best bit is that this toy isn’t just all looks, as it feels simply amazing in use too. The smooth yet firm texture, alongside its temperature play abilities, all work to prove that ceramic is an excellent medium for a sex toy, whilst the design allows for these elements to not become too overwhelming during use. Then, to top it all off is the fact that the Lilac Matte is actually quite cheap, since with a price tag of only $80 AUD this is a lot less than you’ll typically find for such a high quality hand-made toy. Overall this is an excellent product from a brand with a great ethos, and there has truly never been a better time to support small independent toy makers like this!

While the Lilac Matte is no longer a preset option, Deeper Blue Ceramics continue to offer a wide range of beautiful dildos and can also be contacted for custom designs. Plus, don’t forget to use my code GRACE to get 10% OFF your total order!

Last updated: 14/8/24

Price at the time of writing: $80 AUD / $52 USD

I received this product in exchange for an honest and unbiased review. Affiliate links have been used in this post.

As our seemingly never-ending lockdown continues here in Melbourne, I find myself thinking about how to support small and local businesses more than ever. Whether it’s a brick-and-mortar store that has been forced to close its doors, or an online retailer faced with demands for refunds due to delays out of their control, it’s a tough time to be in business. So in addition to my own financial support, I’ve been working to find new ways to promote and highlight small businesses on my social media over the last few months, and it was through this that I first learned of Montréal-based manufacturer Désirables. An independent maker of some of the most beautiful hand-made products I’ve ever seen, Désirables immediately stood out to me through their use of porcelain as a medium for their toys, which is something I haven’t seen before. So you can imagine my excitement when I recently found out that one of my favourite local retailers, Nikki Darling, was not only about to become the first Australian stockist of their exquisite and unique toys, but that they also wanted me to review them!

The Brand

Désirables‘ work and values are truly inspiring. While other companies try to out-do each other with various features and crazy designs for their toys, Désirables instead know the importance of keeping things simple. Using a thoughtful and human-centred design process, they aim for their products to work simply as an extension to your own pleasure rather than replacing it, and in doing so help you create a more intimate connection with yourself and your partners. In this regard, they currently have only two products on offer, their signature Dalia dildo (which I’ll be reviewing today) and their Adori massage stones, both which rely solely on their unique shapes and materials rather than anything else. This means that not only do they not feature vibrations or any other additional features, but they are also pure white. While unusual, I personally love this fact, as not only does it ensure these products are non-gendered, but it also further reinforces the idea that these items are simple background tools used to enhance your own pleasure rather than being the star of the show. In addition to these products Désirables also sell a few other items such as massage candles and oils, however these are not currently stocked at Nikki Darling.

Product Description

In addition to the white version of the Désirables Dalia that I’ll be reviewing today, there are also two limited edition versions currently available at Nikki Darling. Both hand-painted, allowing them to be one-of-a-kind, there is the Love Dust, which is covered in blue dots, and the Marble, which features a marbling effect. As beautiful as these two are though, the idea of a pure white toy was one that I just couldn’t pass up. This isn’t my first ceramic toy, so I felt I had a fairly good idea of what to expect from this alternative material, but as soon as I held the Dalia for the first time it was clear that porcelain was a very different beast. The first thing that stood out to me was just how light this toy is, as with a weight of only 137 grams this thing weighs less than some of my silicone dildos. Next I noted the matte texture, which has been applied in order to provide extra grip during use of the toy. More than that though, the Dalia appears to have been painted using strokes that follow along with the length of the toy, which has left residual brush marks. This in turn then allows for the toy to have a uniquely sleek feeling when running your hand along its length, and a rougher sensation when going against it. In terms of its shape the Dalia is then incredibly well-thought-out, featuring two wildly different designs at either end of its dual-use length, with the larger side being intended for G-Spot use and the smaller side being intended for Kegel exercises. Overall it is quite small in size however, with a maximum diameter of only 3.5cm / 1.38″. Still, considering how firm the porcelain is, this is a wise move from Désirables as it will feel a lot larger in use. Finally, while still absolutely beautiful, one downside to this toy visually is a raised round mark located near its middle, however I understand this is simply a result of the moulding process and it does not affect its use. In addition, as this toy does not have a flared base, it is neither anal safe nor harness compatible.

Packaging

My order with Nikki Darling for the Désirables Dalia was placed on the 31st of August and I received it promptly by the 3rd of September, which, considering the current postal delays we’re experiencing here, was super impressive. Plus, it was 100% discreet, with no mention of the sender or contents on the packaging. The box for the Dalia itself was then beautiful in its own right and stayed true to the brand’s emphasis on simplicity. Aside from a wraparound in Désirables’s signature shade of red (the only colour other than white that features on anything relating to the Dalia), which contains information on the toy and a picture of it, the box is completely white, with its only feature being a small and barely noticeable deboss of the Désirables logo. This means that once the wraparound is removed the box is completely discreet, which is particularly great as with a fragile toy like this you’ll likely want to make it a permanent home. Opening it up then first presents you with a small envelope, containing a thank you card alongside a certificate of authenticity, and then the Dalia’s rather large instruction manual. Other than maybe some information regarding care, dildos typically don’t come with instructions, so this was surprising. But I actually found this guide, which covers everything from how to use the toy and exercise your Kegels, to creating sexual fantasises and communicating with your partner, really interesting and helpful. Next up was the storage bag for the toy, which is handmade out of a red canvas-like material and that feels as special and unique as the toy itself. Then, lastly, I found the Dalia resting safely and presented beautifully in satin. Overall I absolutely love everything about the packaging for this toy, as its restraint reinforces the company’s beliefs while still presenting everything in a luxurious manner as is appropriate for a toy of its price. In addition, the Dalia also comes with a five year warranty.

My Experience

One thing that ceramic lends itself to really well is temperature play, so choosing to either warm or cool the Dalia, depending on your preference, by soaking it in water prior to use is always a good idea. Then, when inserting it I would recommend using a good lubricant, which should allow it to go in relatively easy regardless of what side you use, due to its small size and smooth material. When testing the Dalia I started with the larger end, which thankfully was able to find my G-Spot with ease. Stimulating it this way then feels immensely good, and the orgasms are amazing. The downside, however, is that I find it quite difficult to hold, as for it to effectively stimulate my G-Spot it needs to be inserted fairly far, leaving me with only a very small portion to use as a handle. This makes using it for extended periods quite difficult, and angling it in order to achieve as much stimulation as possible leaves my hand sore even during short bursts. Plus, eventually the handle also gets pretty slippery due to how close it is to my entrance, making things even worse. So, after feeling a bit disappointed by this I decided to instead try out the smaller end of the toy, as even though it is intended for Kegel exercises I was interested in how it would feel for masturbation. To my surprise, I found that I actually enjoyed using this end on my G-Spot more than the other side, as not only does the stimulation feel more focused, but it is also far easier to hold, since the larger end makes for a perfect handle. As such this has quickly become my favourite way to use the toy, and when paired with a good clitoral vibrator, such as the We-Vibe Touch X, I just know I’m going to be in for a treat.

While I loved using the smaller end of the Désirables Dalia on my G-Spot, it is ultimately designed to help with Kegel exercises. While this isn’t something I was particularly interested in at first, I ended up liking it more than I thought I would and found Désirables guide in the instruction manual regarding it very helpful. This is as I typically I do these kinds of exercises without any aids, which is how I prefer it, but being able to have visual representation of my progress for the first time was really neat, with the Dalia simply falling out of me (and onto my soft bed) whenever I wasn’t tight enough. After having only tried Kegel balls for this sort of thing previously, which seem to just disappear inside of you, I can say with certainty that I preferred this method.

Cleaning & Care

Cleaning the Désirables Dalia is easy as it is body-safe and waterproof. For regular cleaning just soak it in some warm soapy water, before rinsing and drying with a clean cloth. Alternatively you can give it a more thorough clean every once in awhile, or when switching between users or orifices, by submerging it in boiling water on the stove for five minutes, and then turning the heat off and allowing it to sit for 30 minutes. You can then return it to its storage bag to keep it dust-free, and for even more protection you can keep it in its box. As the Dalia is fragile make sure to always be careful with it, and cease use if it is damaged in any way.

Final Thoughts

The Désirables Dalia is the kind of sex toy I treasure. I go through so many that sometimes they just seem to blend into one, and in this mass-consumer industry finding anything that is truly unique sometimes feels impossible. But while its porcelain material is the most obvious thing that separates the Dalia from the rest (and after experiencing how firm yet lightweight it is I can’t believe more toy makers aren’t making use of this medium), it is by far not the only reason why I love this toy so much. Rather, the pureness of its white coating, alongside its well-designed curves and beautiful packaging all contribute, and while my version wasn’t a one-of-a-kind limited edition, it sure feels as if it were. While there was obviously an issue with its length, which made holding on to it during use a messy endeavour regardless of which side I used, and using the larger end on my G-Spot as intended quite difficult, at least didn’t compromise on pleasure. Plus, since I ended up enjoying the smaller Kegel side on my G-Spot more anyway, it all worked out in the end. Overall though this is a quite an expensive toy, and considering the stimulation wasn’t perfect you’ll definitely be paying more for the unique material than anything else. But if you can afford it and want something special and different for you or someone else, then this is a great choice.

You can get the Dalia directly from Désirables for just $178 AUD / $117 USD!

Last updated: 15/7/25

Price at the time of writing: $160 AUD / $114 USD

I received this product in exchange for an honest and unbiased review. Affiliate links have been used in this post.

As our seemingly never-ending lockdown continues here in Melbourne, I find myself thinking about how to support small and local businesses more than ever. Whether it’s a brick-and-mortar store that has been forced to close its doors, or an online retailer faced with demands for refunds due to delays out of their control, it’s a tough time to be in business. So in addition to my own financial support, I’ve been working to find new ways to promote and highlight small businesses on my social media over the last few months, and it was through this that I first learned of Montréal-based manufacturer Désirables. An independent maker of some of the most beautiful hand-made products I’ve ever seen, Désirables immediately stood out to me through their use of porcelain as a medium for their toys, which is something I haven’t seen before. So you can imagine my excitement when I recently found out that one of my favourite local retailers, Nikki Darling, was not only about to become the first Australian stockist of their exquisite and unique toys, but that they also wanted me to review them!

The Brand

Désirables‘ work and values are truly inspiring. While other companies try to out-do each other with various features and crazy designs for their toys, Désirables instead know the importance of keeping things simple. Using a thoughtful and human-centred design process, they aim for their products to work simply as an extension to your own pleasure rather than replacing it, and in doing so help you create a more intimate connection with yourself and your partners. In this regard, they currently have only two products on offer, their signature Dalia dildo (which I’ll be reviewing today) and their Adori massage stones, both which rely solely on their unique shapes and materials rather than anything else. This means that not only do they not feature vibrations or any other additional features, but they are also pure white. While unusual, I personally love this fact, as not only does it ensure these products are non-gendered, but it also further reinforces the idea that these items are simple background tools used to enhance your own pleasure rather than being the star of the show. In addition to these products Désirables also sell a few other items such as massage candles and oils, however these are not currently stocked at Nikki Darling.

Product Description

In addition to the white version of the Désirables Dalia that I’ll be reviewing today, there are also two limited edition versions currently available at Nikki Darling. Both hand-painted, allowing them to be one-of-a-kind, there is the Love Dust, which is covered in blue dots, and the Marble, which features a marbling effect. As beautiful as these two are though, the idea of a pure white toy was one that I just couldn’t pass up. This isn’t my first ceramic toy, so I felt I had a fairly good idea of what to expect from this alternative material, but as soon as I held the Dalia for the first time it was clear that porcelain was a very different beast. The first thing that stood out to me was just how light this toy is, as with a weight of only 137 grams this thing weighs less than some of my silicone dildos. Next I noted the matte texture, which has been applied in order to provide extra grip during use of the toy. More than that though, the Dalia appears to have been painted using strokes that follow along with the length of the toy, which has left residual brush marks. This in turn then allows for the toy to have a uniquely sleek feeling when running your hand along its length, and a rougher sensation when going against it. In terms of its shape the Dalia is then incredibly well-thought-out, featuring two wildly different designs at either end of its dual-use length, with the larger side being intended for G-Spot use and the smaller side being intended for Kegel exercises. Overall it is quite small in size however, with a maximum diameter of only 3.5cm / 1.38″. Still, considering how firm the porcelain is, this is a wise move from Désirables as it will feel a lot larger in use. Finally, while still absolutely beautiful, one downside to this toy visually is a raised round mark located near its middle, however I understand this is simply a result of the moulding process and it does not affect its use. In addition, as this toy does not have a flared base, it is neither anal safe nor harness compatible.

Packaging

My order with Nikki Darling for the Désirables Dalia was placed on the 31st of August and I received it promptly by the 3rd of September, which, considering the current postal delays we’re experiencing here, was super impressive. Plus, it was 100% discreet, with no mention of the sender or contents on the packaging. The box for the Dalia itself was then beautiful in its own right and stayed true to the brand’s emphasis on simplicity. Aside from a wraparound in Désirables’s signature shade of red (the only colour other than white that features on anything relating to the Dalia), which contains information on the toy and a picture of it, the box is completely white, with its only feature being a small and barely noticeable deboss of the Désirables logo. This means that once the wraparound is removed the box is completely discreet, which is particularly great as with a fragile toy like this you’ll likely want to make it a permanent home. Opening it up then first presents you with a small envelope, containing a thank you card alongside a certificate of authenticity, and then the Dalia’s rather large instruction manual. Other than maybe some information regarding care, dildos typically don’t come with instructions, so this was surprising. But I actually found this guide, which covers everything from how to use the toy and exercise your Kegels, to creating sexual fantasises and communicating with your partner, really interesting and helpful. Next up was the storage bag for the toy, which is handmade out of a red canvas-like material and that feels as special and unique as the toy itself. Then, lastly, I found the Dalia resting safely and presented beautifully in satin. Overall I absolutely love everything about the packaging for this toy, as its restraint reinforces the company’s beliefs while still presenting everything in a luxurious manner as is appropriate for a toy of its price. In addition, the Dalia also comes with a five year warranty.

My Experience

One thing that ceramic lends itself to really well is temperature play, so choosing to either warm or cool the Dalia, depending on your preference, by soaking it in water prior to use is always a good idea. Then, when inserting it I would recommend using a good lubricant, which should allow it to go in relatively easy regardless of what side you use, due to its small size and smooth material. When testing the Dalia I started with the larger end, which thankfully was able to find my G-Spot with ease. Stimulating it this way then feels immensely good, and the orgasms are amazing. The downside, however, is that I find it quite difficult to hold, as for it to effectively stimulate my G-Spot it needs to be inserted fairly far, leaving me with only a very small portion to use as a handle. This makes using it for extended periods quite difficult, and angling it in order to achieve as much stimulation as possible leaves my hand sore even during short bursts. Plus, eventually the handle also gets pretty slippery due to how close it is to my entrance, making things even worse. So, after feeling a bit disappointed by this I decided to instead try out the smaller end of the toy, as even though it is intended for Kegel exercises I was interested in how it would feel for masturbation. To my surprise, I found that I actually enjoyed using this end on my G-Spot more than the other side, as not only does the stimulation feel more focused, but it is also far easier to hold, since the larger end makes for a perfect handle. As such this has quickly become my favourite way to use the toy, and when paired with a good clitoral vibrator, such as the We-Vibe Touch X, I just know I’m going to be in for a treat.

While I loved using the smaller end of the Désirables Dalia on my G-Spot, it is ultimately designed to help with Kegel exercises. While this isn’t something I was particularly interested in at first, I ended up liking it more than I thought I would and found Désirables guide in the instruction manual regarding it very helpful. This is as I typically I do these kinds of exercises without any aids, which is how I prefer it, but being able to have visual representation of my progress for the first time was really neat, with the Dalia simply falling out of me (and onto my soft bed) whenever I wasn’t tight enough. After having only tried Kegel balls for this sort of thing previously, which seem to just disappear inside of you, I can say with certainty that I preferred this method.

Cleaning & Care

Cleaning the Désirables Dalia is easy as it is body-safe and waterproof. For regular cleaning just soak it in some warm soapy water, before rinsing and drying with a clean cloth. Alternatively you can give it a more thorough clean every once in awhile, or when switching between users or orifices, by submerging it in boiling water on the stove for five minutes, and then turning the heat off and allowing it to sit for 30 minutes. You can then return it to its storage bag to keep it dust-free, and for even more protection you can keep it in its box. As the Dalia is fragile make sure to always be careful with it, and cease use if it is damaged in any way.

Final Thoughts

The Désirables Dalia is the kind of sex toy I treasure. I go through so many that sometimes they just seem to blend into one, and in this mass-consumer industry finding anything that is truly unique sometimes feels impossible. But while its porcelain material is the most obvious thing that separates the Dalia from the rest (and after experiencing how firm yet lightweight it is I can’t believe more toy makers aren’t making use of this medium), it is by far not the only reason why I love this toy so much. Rather, the pureness of its white coating, alongside its well-designed curves and beautiful packaging all contribute, and while my version wasn’t a one-of-a-kind limited edition, it sure feels as if it were. While there was obviously an issue with its length, which made holding on to it during use a messy endeavour regardless of which side I used, and using the larger end on my G-Spot as intended quite difficult, at least didn’t compromise on pleasure. Plus, since I ended up enjoying the smaller Kegel side on my G-Spot more anyway, it all worked out in the end. Overall though this is a quite an expensive toy, and considering the stimulation wasn’t perfect you’ll definitely be paying more for the unique material than anything else. But if you can afford it and want something special and different for you or someone else, then this is a great choice.

You can get the Dalia directly from Désirables for just $178 AUD / $117 USD!

Last updated: 15/7/25

Price at the time of writing: $160 AUD / $114 USD

I received this product in exchange for an honest and unbiased review. Affiliate links have been used in this post.